‘Starting over Fresh’ –D_E_C_O_D_E_D
Nations growth depends on its literacy rate. Educated population is the real power of developed nation. Only 4.5% of India’s population reaches up to the graduation level. Nearly 32% of the population does not even take primary education. On the other hand, students in metropolitan cities, even after scoring 94% marks do not feel content and crib about loosing ‘some’ marks.
In our education system, month of June plays a vital role in every student’s life. A New Academic Year’s admissions are in reality a battle between grades and students, where success means (only) 100% Good Grades otherwise student is tagged as a ‘Complete Failure’. Although we all understand the futility of this grade system, we still get trapped in the ‘rat race’. Every now and then we come across articles, newsroom discussions, seminars by psychologists on academic failures of students in which they emphasize on parents’ perspective on this sensitive issue. They all say one simple thing “One must learn to let it go and Let it flow”.
“I accept failure, every one fails at something, but I can’t accept not trying”- Michel Jorden
Instead of treating academic failure or academic performance below one’s expectations as a major jolt in one’s growth, we must accept the result and start working on the strategies and plan for shaping our career and even in some cases looking for alternative career options.
First of all, we need to understand the concept of ‘Individual intelligence’. Not necessarily every student is either a ‘little master’ or ‘spell bee’ champion. His area of interest may vary from other children of his age and that doesn’t mean he or she is not competent. Even if a student is yet not able to identify his preference or area of competence, it is absolutely fine and because of this he should not be forced to choose a particular academic stream which his or her parents think fit. Parents should not push their child to chase an ambition which they wished but could not achieve. Parents should not treat their children as a Project to complete their unfulfilled dreams.
Success is not final; failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts. -Winston Churchill
Academic decisions start with open talk between children and their parents. Children should feel comfortable at home to be able to talk freely about their likings, problems etc. Children should also have faith in their parents that they would listen to them and understand them. From an early age, healthy, informative and encouraging discussions related to various topics at home help children to build their personality and share their thoughts. Parents’ job is to make information related to various career options available to their children but not to push them in a particular direction. Once this information is made available in conducive environment, Children will speak their mind and at that stage parents would be able to direct them in choosing most suitable career option.
Parents or teachers should never say to children that they have failed; they should make them realize what they should learn from that mistake and guide them to come out of that phase. Once parents start responding to their child’s problems positively, confidence and respect towards parents is developed in child’s mind, which is very crucial.
Individual decision making ability should be encouraged amongst students by parents as well as teachers. In depth, research about various education and career streams is a wonderful learning process in itself.
Selection is elimination: This theory is self-explanatory. When you search for more and more available options you get to know what you are exactly looking for by eliminating options out of your range. Focusing on your chosen options becomes easier.
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. – Thomas A. Edison
If plan A fails…. you have 26 alphabets: While discovering your right choice somewhere you try to find out your alternative option. This saves your energy and time if your main plan doesn’t work out, because you know you can shift to which other option. It saves you from those unnecessary panic attacks. In addition to this , it can turn out to be great parallel career futuristic plan as well.
Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more Intelligently-Henry Ford
Students or even parents should never select any particular academic / career option just because it is in trend or others are choosing it. They should stick to their own criteria while making this decision. Now a days it’s been observed that courses with fashionable names and exorbitant fees are more in demand. Without considering what is the academic and financial capacity and interest of student, both students and parents get influenced to pursue these courses. This leads to drop outs, financial losses, shifts from several courses and ultimately they end up completing the traditional degree courses. To ensure that students don’t get into this trap, impulsive decisions should be avoided. Help of career counselors, aptitude tests can be taken.
And remember it’s never too late to find your way. Majority of successful people say that you learn more from your mistakes and failures than success. So never be afraid of taking risks.
After all, sometimes not getting what you want is also a wonderful struck of luck. – Dalai Lama